entirely ready to have God remove these defects of character."
key words in this step are "ready" and "God."
Sometimes were are not ready, even though we want to be, and other
times we want to do it ourselves without God.
addiction is insidious. It does not let go of us and we cannot
let go of it without help. Our character defects (bad habits)
are also difficult to let go of. We may like some of them and
hold on despite the fact that they are undermining our self-esteem.
For example lying and stealing may be lucrative habits that we
aren't ready to let go of. If we have thoroughly worked the steps
up to now, there should be some willingness to become a better
person. This is enough. We do not have to work this step perfectly
despite the word "entirely." This step is a bridge to
the next and so if you are willing at all you can proceed.
fear and habit hold us back, we may also still be of the belief
that we can become better people by sheer will power. If you still
believe this then you must go back and work the previous steps
again. Members of LAA are people who believe we need the power
of God to lift our obsessions. Not everyone needs divine intervention,
but we do. We are "powerless" without help and without
our Higher Power. So admit to yourself and another human being
that you are ready to have God remove your shortcomings and move
on to Step 7. If you can't do this then stay with this step until
you are ready. The day will come when you see that your character
defects are standing between you and your happiness and you will
be happy to ask God to help you surrender them.
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